“When someone calls you too sensitive, what they often mean is: ‘Your feelings make me uncomfortable, and I’d rather not be held accountable for how I treat you.’” -Sylvester McNutt III

My Interpretation: Sensitivity is not a flaw. It is a compass. & when people shame you for feeling too much, what they are really saying is: “Stop noticing how I hurt you.”

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You Are Not Too Sensitive… They Are Just Uncomfortable with Accountability

Series 5: Post 7 – Standalone Punches

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Let me guess:
You were calm.
Measured.
Kind, even.

You used “I” statements.
You did not yell.
You did not attack.

But still – they looked at you and said:

“You are overreacting.”
“You are being dramatic.”
“Wow, so sensitive.”

& just like that, your truth became the problem.

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That is the thing about emotional abuse.
It does not always come in screaming.
Sometimes, it whispers:

“I do not remember saying that.”
“You are twisting my words.”
“God, you are impossible to talk to.”

& suddenly, you are questioning everything:
↪︎ Your memory.
↪︎ Your reactions.
↪︎ Your worth.

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Let me be straight forward:
♡ You are not too much for asking to be treated well.
♡ You are not too sensitive for pointing out inconsistencies.
Or for holding someone to their own words.
Or for refusing to let them rewrite history in real time.

You know what “too sensitive” women actually do?
➱ They remember.
➱ They notice.
➱ They care.
& they speak the fuck up.

But when you do that in front of someone who’s never had to answer for themselves?
They do not reflect.
They deflect.
& then they call you the problem.

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Here is what else:

You can be soft & strong.
You can cry while setting boundaries.
You can shake & still mean every word.

You can be sensitive as hell
& still be the most dangerous thing in the room –
because you are finally awake.

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So no, I am not going to dim myself to make you comfortable.
I am not going to swallow my feelings to protect your ego.
I am not going to “let it go” just because you are tired of being called out.

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I spent too long convincing myself I was the one who needed fixing –
when really?
I was just surrounded by people
who refused to be held accountable.

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You do not get to be cruel & then call me “emotional.”
You do not get to gaslight me & then cry when I name it.
You do not get to silence me
just because you are not ready to face the echo of your own actions.

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I am not too sensitive.
I am just no longer available for bullshit.

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You are not “too sensitive”
for raising your voice after being ignored for the fifth time.
You are not dramatic
for wanting someone to ask how you are –
without it being foreplay.
& you are not unreasonable
for asking your partner to remember
your birthday,
your miscarriage,
or your pain.

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They called you emotional
when you cried after doing all the housework,
working full-time,
& still being asked

“What is for dinner?”
while bleeding through your jeans.

They called you sensitive
when you asked why your grief was minimized –
when you were still feeding the dogs,
still parenting,
still showing up –
while he was posting beer selfies & disappearing for hours.

They called you overreactive
when you asked if they could stop making jokes
about other women’s appearances in front of you.
While you sat in a chair with a broken heart, desperate for support.

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They did not like it
when you started writing things down.
They did not like it
when you started recording.
They did not like it
when you stopped smiling through it.

So they called it “too much.”
When really?
It was finally enough.

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You were not being dramatic.
You were documenting the damage.

& the moment you stopped crying
& started calling things what they are –
That is when they called you cold.

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You are not too sensitive.
You are aware.
You are intelligent.
You are done gaslighting yourself on their behalf.

Xoxo ♡