“You eventually will stop explaining yourself when you come to realize people only understand from their level of perception.” – K, Probably

My Interpretation: Not everyone is meant to understand you fully. & not everyone has the capacity to hold you completely. Growth is realizing that explanation is not connection – & that the right people will not require you to shrink, soften, or simplify yourself just to stay. Which includes turning your trauma or bad days into “jokes” in order to make it easier for others to absorb. 👀

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No one knows my full story.

& I stopped expecting them to.

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They know versions.
Clips.
Pieces I hand out carefully –
measured, filtered, intentional.

Because the truth?

It is heavy.

The kind of heavy
that shifts people’s posture
when they actually feel it.

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So, I learned how to carry it alone.

⤷ How to make it palatable.
⤷ How to turn it into jokes.
⤷ How to test people in small doses
just to see what they could hold.

& the answer?

Not much.

 

People can handle pieces of me.

But my entirety?

No one has had the shoulders for that.

Yet.

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So, I adapted.

➜ I shrank.
➜ I filtered.
I softened edges that were never meant to be soft
just to be easier to hold.

Easier to understand.
Easier to stay.

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I am done with that.

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This is the year I stop reminding people I exist.

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I am not chasing conversations anymore.

If it dies,
it dies.

I have kept conversations alive
that should have died weeks ago.

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I am not double texting
people who saw it the first time.

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I am not watering myself down
so someone else does not feel overwhelmed
by the depth they asked for.

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I am not packaging my life
into something more digestible
for people who have never had to carry anything real.

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Too heavy?

Go.

Find someone easier.

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Because I am not for everyone.

& I was never supposed to be.

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After Cade – after learning what it feels like to beg for basic consideration –

I am done negotiating my worth.

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I know exactly who I am.

I know how deeply I feel.
How much I carry.
How present I show up
when it is reciprocated.

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But I am not offering that
to people who treat it like it is optional.

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This year is not about becoming softer.

It is about becoming
unapologetically whole.

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If you meet me –

✧ You get depth.
✧ You get honesty.
✧ You get presence that does not waver.

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But if you do not?

I will not chase you
⇥ into your silence.

I will not remind you
⇥ to care about me.

I will not shrink
⇥ just so you do not have to grow.

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Because I exist.

Fully.
Unfiltered.
Unapologetic.

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& if that is too much for you –

you were never meant
to hold me anyway.

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This is the year
I stop making myself smaller
so other people can stay comfortable.

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I stopped reminding people I exist.

The ones who mattered noticed.

xoxo ♡